Changing your Thoughts & Emotions through Action
We probably all agree to say that our thoughts, emotions and states of being, influence our actions. In fact, we often allow our state of being to determine our actions.
If I'm in a good mood (state of being), I'll have a nice evening with my partner (action)
When I'll feel more confident (state of being), I'll speak up more at my team meetings (action)
When I'll feel less socially anxious (state of being), I'll go out more to meet new people (action)
But here's the part that we tend to forget:
Our actions are one of the most effective ways to influence our thoughts, emotions and states of being!
Instead of waiting for your thoughts or emotions to be a certain way in order to take the action that you desire to take, you get to use action as a way to positively influence your thoughts and emotions! How empowering is that?
So, if you come home from a tough day at work and you're not in a good mood (state of being), you get to shift your state of being into a more positive one by making a conscious effort to have a nice evening with your partner (action)!
You also don't need to wait until you feel more confident in order to speak up more at your work meetings. Instead, you can speak up NOW in order to start feeling more confident!
The same goes with social anxiety. You do not need to wait until you have eliminated your social anxiety in order to go out and meet new people. The opposite is true: by going out and meeting new people NOW, you get to start reducing your social anxiety.
Sure, this process might sometimes require you to step out of your comfort zone, for example by speaking up even though you don't feel very confident, or introducing yourself to new people despite your social anxiety, but it's also one of the most effective ways to take control of the situation: you get to do hard things despite how you feel about them. Then, little by little, through consistent action, you'll notice that the way that you think or feel about those hard things has changed positively! That's growth right there, ladies and gentlemen.
Your homework: ask yourself - in what ways are you allowing your thoughts or states of being influence your action negatively, and how could you REVERSE that so that you actions can start to influence your thoughts and states of being positively?
As always, please feel free to send any thoughts my way: firstname.lastname@example.org. I love chatting with you!